I want to talk about something very important and something that we tend to take for granted. Marriage, it is one of the greatest gifts from God that we have. It is His creation and one of the greatest ways of fulfilling the will of God. We live in a society that doesn’t honor marriage the way it is meant to be anymore. Since the beginning we were created to marry.
Genesis 1:27 “So God created man in His own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he has created them. 28 God blessed them and said to them ‘Be fruitful and increase in number and fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over all the living creatures that moves on the ground.
Marriage is a covenant between two people with God, the creator, in the front of it. Husband and wife both have a responsibility in a marriage and are suppose to submit themselves to each other.
Ephesians 22 wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself to her 26 to make her holy, by washing with water through the word, 27 and present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 after all, no one hated their own body, but they feed and care for the body, just as Christ does the church 30 for we are members of his body. 31 For this reason a man will leave his mother and father and be united to his wife, and the two will become one body. It is God’s will for us to marry and build our own families with Him at the top.
When we do get married, it is important to build a foundation. Without a rock to build your house on, your house is being set to crumble. We are told many times throughout the Bible that will face trials and tribulations, we will be put to the test. 1 Peter 4:12 Dear friends, do not be surprised at the painful trial you are suffering, as though something strange were happening to you. We will face hard times as individuals and in marriage, and it is so easy to fall away from what marriage is when the storms come. That was why it is important for a married couple to do things like Bible study and devotionals together. Marriage is about growing together not apart. Mark 10:9 Therefore what God has brought together, let no one separate.
In order to do this, we should build houses on a solid foundation. It also speaks about this in the Bible as well. Matthew 7:24 Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on a rock. 25 The rain cane down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against the house, yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on a rock. 26 But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on the sand. 27 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against the house, the house fell with a great crash. The rock that we need is Jesus, he is the way and the light. Jesus and the church is the definition of what marriage is, he gave his life for the church and that is what marriage is, giving all of yourself to someone.
We live in a time where we have all these articles and blogs saying “7 ways to improve your marriage” and “10 ways to be happy”, but in reality….it was written a long long time ago. We don’t listen what our creator has spoken and follow what a magazine tells us instead. Marriage is one of the greatest gifts from God and we treat it like a game, we divorce just because we aren’t happy at the moment or because we think the grass is greener on the other side.
I’m not going to tell anyone what to do, I just want to bring what the Bible says to attention. We get married to become one body and multiply, we grow together as a family with God in the front, we teach our kids to become God seeking children. That is what the Bible says in a nutshell. It’s not always going to be easy, you will have good and bad times. Enjoy the good times and lean towards your spouse during the bad times and always pray together. Remember, it is you and your spouse against the problem, not you against your spouse. Your spouse is meant to be your support system, not a superhero. Jesus is the superhero, humans fail all the time. But with God all things are possible!
If anyone who reads this is going through a storm, I pray that you will be given the guidance through it. For those who are still young and not married, you can start preparing yourself now for marriage by seeking God for yourself. Marriage is about loving someone through the ugliest of times and being that one person they can turn to when everything is going wrong. As for her, and you know who you are, I love you and I am always with you!